Have you ever approached an elevator, only to see the person inside madly pushing the button to close the door before you get there?  So much incivility in life has to do with people in a hurry.

Elevator rules are simple: business etiquette is gender neutral — in business, the person closest to the door exits the elevator first.  All other times, social etiquette dictates that gentlemen stand aside and let the ladies on and off the elevator first and everyone stands aside for the elderly or those needing extra time.  If you are waiting to board the elevator, allow those coming off the elevator to exit first.

Hold the door for people trying to board or disembark; do not hold the door to make plans for the evening with someone outside the elevator, while others are waiting.  If you are standing next to the control panel, offer to push someone’s button (though not in those words).  If you are at the back of the elevator, do not try to reach across everyone to hit the button yourself, ask nicely for someone to select your floor.  If you are alone in an elevator with big mirrors and you decide to primp, check your teeth or make other adjustments, please keep in mind that you may be doing so for the entertainment of the building security personnel.